At the risk of stating the obvious, sex is amazing. Most of the time, but not every time, and whether you’re stuck in a rut with your partner, or feeling like you could be getting more out of things in the bedroom, this article could be just for you. Here are some of the biggest mistakes people are making during, and before, sex, and how best to avoid them to ensure you both have the time of your lives. 

Communicating Your Desires

Your partner is not telepathic, which is obvious, but let’s take it a step further—your partner shouldn’t be expected to figure out what you like, dislike, and how you want to explore sex, on their own. We understand not everyone is comfortable with the subject, and there are a whole host of understandable reasons why people are reluctant to talk openly and forthrightly about sex with their partners. But it will make things so much better, if before, after, and especially during, you’re able to tell them what’s working, what isn’t working, and what to do next. 

Communicating desire isn’t just about telling your partner what to do, it’s also about telling your partner how much you want them. And the best way to do this? Flirting. It doesn’t have to lead to sex, and it’s probability better if it often doesn’t, at least if you want to get anything else done! But, some flirting, suggestive texting or notes, the occasional naughty whisper in their ear, all helps to not only connect you both, but it also ensures you’ll definitely be in the mood when the moment comes. 

It’s The Journey Not Destination 

Yes, there are those rare orgasms that seem to bend time itself, the earth-shattering, bed-rocking, mind-blowing experiences. But, there’s equal joy, pleasure, and connection to be found in fumbling, stuttering, and having a good time even if things aren’t going off without a hitch! Most importantly when it comes to this, it’s important to remember that our bodies are complex, fickle things, and sometimes they just won’t do what we want. 

Want to know the best way to have a good time even if things go wrong? Lighten up! No, really, sex is meant to be fun, and sometimes awkward, it’s all flailing limbs and strange positions after all! So, don’t take things too seriously, be willing to laugh a little, and you’ll have a good time even when things don’t go according to plan. 

Don’t Be Afraid To Experiment

We all have our favourite positions, our go-to routines, those things that no matter what, will always drive us wild with pleasure and anticipation—but, for many people, these things can lose their lustre if they become rote. That’s why even if you know what you like and see no reason to change, it’s a good idea to keep an open mind and to experiment in trying new things.

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